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Whose Life are You Living? Setting Realistic Expectations

“Whose life are you living”?  Are you setting unrealistic expectations?

When you look at your life as it is today, is it yours?  Are you doing things that you want and should be doing or are you doing the things that your parents, spouse, children, friends or colleagues want you to do?  Do you THINK people expect something from you and therefore establish impossible standards for yourself? 

Often times we set expectations on our lives that shouldn’t be there.  Don’t get me wrong, I have done it myself.  Trying to look or speak a certain way because that is what is expected of a speaker. What about trying to meet the “perfect” mate because that’s what fits into your circle?

Let’s get one thing straight…your life is YOURS uniquely.  It is not going to be a cookie cutter to someone else’s.  Just because your colleague and you have the same pedigree and the same job etc. doesn’t mean your life will be the same.

The reason I wanted to ask that question is because I see this issue a lot when working with Clients in their spaces.  They have this vision of what their home should look like and when I drill down into the why’s and the how’s of their lifestyle, their vision doesn’t fit their reality.


An example of what I am able to discover after a little prodding is that my Client has a co-worker who has three kids but their house is super organized.  My Client is feeling overwhelmed because they begin to second guess their abilities and how good a housekeeper, parent or spouse they are.

What they fail to realize is that the coworker they are looking up to is stressed out to the hilt. That person is doing everything they can trying to maintain that lifestyle.  They typically only get 4 or 5 hours of sleep a night and are exhausted trying to maintain the façade.

Now don’t get me wrong, I am not saying all neat homes have sleep deprived and exhausted individuals attached to them.  What I am saying is that you shouldn’t begin to second guess your abilities because you have set unattainable goals for yourself and your family.  Don’t read a blog or see a photo on Pinterest and then set out to make your space look exactly the same way.


Systems Developed for Your Environment

It is ok to use those images and stories as inspiration. That is what they are there for, but understand that a lot of the images are staged so they look good online.

Even with our before and after photos, yes those photos are real, but we try to make sure everything is in just the right place before snapping the photo.  Focus your energy on establishing your own systems and determining what works in your space and for your life. You will be a lot happier and more successful in maintaining your home.



The THB works with busy entrepreneurs to develop, implement and streamline processes that enable them to have a rich work-life balance.  If you are experiencing life transitions, I want to provide you with the tools you need to organize and maintain your space so you can live your happiest life.  If you haven’t already, make sure you join our network to be notified of our posts and to receive other life changing information


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About Dana LaRieal Morales

Dana LaRieal Morales is the Founder of The Happiness Bucket where she coaches individuals and teams on having a better work-life balance. She is a Certified Project Manager, an Alum of the University of Tennessee Knoxville, where she earned her degree in sociology with a concentration in criminal justice and she is also an Alum of Tennessee State University where she earned her Masters in Public Administration, She uses her vast organization, project management and process improvement experiences to help those around her be their best selves.

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