I’m sure many of you have seen the reality shows on popular networks like Bravo and Style related to weddings and wedding dresses…bridezilla’s and momzilla’s, well I am here to tell you that those things really do happen, but they don’t have to nor do they need to. A wedding is about the joining of two lives, two families, and two hearts. Most girls dream about their “perfect” wedding day, mom’s dream about their daughter in poofy Cinderella-like dresses meeting their Prince charming and being whisked away to make them grandmothers LOL…and dad’s well, some dream of walking their daughter down the aisle others are saying how much is this gonna cost me! Well, I am here to tell you…from my own experience and those of others…don’t let your dream overshadow your reality. You don’t want to look back on what should have been a day of a lifetime to not remember what happened or to only remember the negative parts or everything that “went wrong”. The reality is that something always goes wrong…or not as planned with any event. It is inevitable that someone will forget or break something or someone will get lost, but that is so not important. Keep your focus on what is important and you will be able to enjoy your day. I remember having a conversation with my mother after she told me she just wanted everything to be perfect. I realized that she just wanted me to have a wonderful day and the love for me kept her moving towards that world of perfection…I mean what mother doesn’t want that for her daughter? Although I knew that was the case I calmly told her that no wedding is perfect. No matter how much you plan or how strict you are about every detail, no wedding is perfect. All you can do is prepare yourself to address those things that go wrong, which in turn can make it appear to be perfect. For example, at my wedding I realized on the day before that I forgot to print two sets of the food name cards. This was important as we had two buffet lines. What happened? One buffet had menu cards and one didn’t. Who knew this was the case? Me and the group I had helping me coordinate the day. Who cared? No one LOL.
Just focus on the purpose of the day and relax. There is no point in obsessing over all the small details that no one will notice anyway. Yeah…it’s great if you all have your nails painted the same color, but if for some reason that can’t happen…no one will notice. Don’t worry if the extra cake for Bobby’s 2nd birthday split down the middle. You have the one for photos and you start by cutting the second one in the back or on the side as though you had planned to offer up precut slices. It still tastes good and believe me Bobby won’t know or care. The bigger question is why do you have two cakes for a 2 year old’s party. lol
Hopefully you get the point. I’m not saying don’t plan these special extras. I’m not saying not to consider things to be important…I’m just saying that you should put things into perspective and have plans B and C for your events. Know why you are having the event and don’t lose focus of that. Learn when to let things go and when to be adament about them, but know you can’t be adament about everything. And most of all ENJOY the celebration be it a wedding, birthday, anniversary, graduation, etc.